Rotten kids, it's not just for buses anymore...

Have you seen the Bus Monitor video?

Veruca Salt from Charlie and the Chocolate factory.

If you haven't seen the video, you should really watch it.  It's a PERFECT picture of how ROTTEN kids can be.  These kids are assholes as are their parents for raising them this way.    If they treat an adult this bad, imagine how they treat each other?  I'm 38 years old, and have lived through this shit.  When I was in middle/high school I was teased unmercifully, I had acne, and I was one of the first girls in my class to get big boobs.  I would wait to get off the bus to cry, I cried at night, I contemplated suicide but even then, I didn't really think hard about it.  I had friends, and a good home, and a great Mom, I knew I was loved...but what would have happened if I didn't have that support at home?  A LOT of that teasing was done on the bus, but it happened at school too.  If you ever wonder why these poor kids commit suicide you only need to watch that video.  They made a GROWN WOMAN CRY, she's an adult, she knows they are just punk kids, she knows it really holds no weight for her, and still it made her cry.   When you're that age, other kids opinions of you is basically your world, you are constantly trying to keep up and fit in.  Should it be that way? Hell no, but it is.  Have you ever watched the movie "Mean Girls"  if not you should, it's so true.  I love that movie, I love the way she gets them all back at the end, but how many times in real life does that actually happen?  I don't know of any, eventually if you ignore them long enough they will find someone else to pick on, if you're lucky.  Or some teens take what they think is the last resort, and kill themselves...so sad.   I think it's great the outpouring of love and support for Karen, however how many people/children have died/killed themselves over the same treatment and gone unnoticed, or unsupported?  

Bullying laws?  Really?  You know if someone from the past were to look into this they'd be laughing.  How did kids get so spoiled rotten that they can get away w/ this shit and we have to have LAWS against it?  I'm not saying these things didn't happen then, but SOMETHING would have been done and in a hurry.  This doesn't just happen on the bus, it happens at school, to the teachers, bus drivers and they can do NOTHING.  They are taught not to respond and send the kid to the office.  What if the kid won't go to the office?  Teachers NEED something, they need to have some sort of good punishment for these assholes, community service or SOMEthing.   No wonder we have schools full of shitty teachers, if I had to live through what they do everyday, I'd be a bitch too.  Bullying taught me to be a bitch, trust no one, don't give a shit what other people think, and that I have thick skin, blotchy or not.  

My principal had a paddle on the wall in his office.  I don't know if he ever used it, but we knew he would if he had to.  Do I want someone else paddling my kid? NO!  But if I teach my kids right from wrong, I shouldn't have to worry about it.  It's the people who count on society to raise their little assholes, those are the people's kids who will get paddled by someone else, because their parents don't care enough to discipline them. For example this article about a 10 yr kid getting punched by an adult because he was being too noisy and throwing popcorn at the man and his girlfriend.  Did that man get any support?  Nope, he got charged w/ Second degree assault and the whole U.S. was crying over the little douche bag getting punched.  I bet that kid will never act up in a theater again.  Do I think it's right? No, but who else is going to punish the kid?  Who drops off a 10 yr old w/ his friends to a PG-13 movie and leaves?  If you don't know your kid can behave in public w/o you, then you better not be leaving them.  Isn't that abandonment?  Where I live your kids have to be 12 yrs old to leave them alone somewhere, WTH?  No, this guy didn't get any support and he'll probably get sued by the parents because he hurt their poor little douche bag child. 

   There are still some good kids out there, that have good parents that don't let them act like assholes, too bad we're a dying breed.  If your kid yells at you,  swears in front of you, screams until they get what they want, does whatever the hell they want no matter what you say...your kid is probably an asshole.  If they will treat you that way, what's to stop them from treating ANYone else that way?  At least the little douche bags recorded it and got caught, how many other instances go unrecorded?

There are days I hate air conditioning!

Today is one of those days!

I was sitting outside reading the rest of a good book on my Nook (Through a Glass Darkly...pretty good).  PERFECT night about 75 degrees, no humidity, sun is slowly sinking, no wind, not too hot, not too cold, just lovely.  Ahhh...for once the kids and the hubs are leaving me alone, I can't believe it, and I'm not sure it's safe to go inside and find out why, but it was so peaceful.  One of those rare moments as a parent of four.  

I get to the end of my book, and it's getting darker, so I decide to go in.  I walk in the door and it's colder INside my house than the perfect temp OUTside my house.  This INSTANTLY pisses me off (hence the "Mommy on the Edge" it doesn't take much) so I march over to the thermostat to see what it's set at.   The gauge says it's set at 70 degrees.  WHAT. THE. HELL.!!??  This is the second time in a week my husband has messed w/ it, it wasn't even that hot today, the high was 81, there is NO reason to even turn it on.  So I give him the look of death and say, between my teeth...you know what I mean..real evil-like.."I swear to God if that is set lower than 74 degrees again this summer I will take it OFF the wall!!!"  and stomp away.  I will.  He is not mechanical AT ALL and I can fix just about anything.  I installed it, I shall take it away.  MAN I hate that!  I just got  the electric bill from last month at $210 HOLY SHIT!  I can't afford that kind of bill.  He'll be lucky if I don't take if off the wall anyway.  It wasn't even on all month, just a few days here and there, between that and SOMEone leaving the hose leaking for 3 days (yeah water and electric on the same bill..we're so blessed) it added up.

Overall I don't like A/C anyway, I hate walking around my house in the summer and seeing the kids wrapped in blankets to watch a movie, or sleeping in winter pajamas or my feet feeling like icicles.  It's summer for Christ's sake, sleep in a T-shirt!  Enjoy the warmth, because this is Michigan and we will be plunged back into darkness and cold before you know it!  I should NOT have to walk outside to get warm.  The ONLY time it's tolerable is when it's 85 or above and high humidity, even then there's NO reason for it to be set lower than 74.  I hate being cold.

Separate beds HELL! Separate rooms sounds more like it!

They had the beginning of the idea anyway.  While separate beds would be great, I'm thinking separate rooms would be the ultimate AWESOME.  Here's why:

1. I hate walking into my bedroom and it smells like shit because my husband got there first and has been farting like a bean-fed cowboy for at least an hour.   You can spray air freshener but then it just smells like shit and flowers, and that's not real conducive to sleep either.

2.  Keep your body OFF my side of the bed.  Don't touch my pillow, my side of the blankets..NOTHING!

3.  Even if he isn't farting he stinks, guys pretty much just smell like ass all the time I've discovered, and the ass  smell permeates the whole room.

4. I don't want to cuddle, EVER, not before sex, not after sex, just never, stay the hell away from me.  No I do not want your hot sweaty arm thrown over me while you are sleeping, I feel like a caged animal AND it's too hot, just no.

5. Snoring, I think I've mentioned before that my husband snores, like a grizzly bear and no , that's NOT an understatement.  Well we thought we fixed that w/ the CPAP machine..and yes it did fixed the snoring, that is BLISS.  HOWEVER, when he gets up in the middle of the night to pee, if he doesn't turn it off  it sounds like the TV left on while the cable box is turned off.  STATIC  EXTREMELY LOUD STATIC!!!  I've asked him nicely not to leave it on, he still does it.  Next time it happens I'm throwing the damn machine out the window!  At least the snoring is not his fault, being inconsiderate is a WHOLE OTHER issue!  So not only am I awake in the middle of the night, but instantly MAD AS HELL Because he left it on, so I know I will be awake for hours.  Last night this happened.  3:27 am.  Still awake.  I counted backwards from 100 3 times. I prayed for everyone on the planet and then prayed for sleep, and then prayed for patience so I wouldn't smother him in his sleep.   I read a book.  Finally I just got up...what the hell is the point.  Look out world I got my bitch shoes on and I ain't afraid to stomp on you w/ them!

IF my house was big enough for me to have my own room I would totally be sleeping in it tonight!  

Why can't you just buy the cream?

Seriously, why haven't they just come up w/ a way to sell you the creme/cream?  That shit is AMAZING!  I know I know it's probably full of preservatives and chemicals and addictive endorphins or some shit, but it's DELICIOUS.  I would really like to be able to buy the creme from Little Debbie Oatmeal Cream Pies, or the filling from the Swiss cake rolls, and the Icing from Toaster Strudel. 

You can't make this at home, I know..I've tried every top secret recipe out there.  It's just not the same w/o the chemicals.  Sad but true.  They know this, that's why they are so damned stingy w/ it.  You can't buy it w/o the oatmeal cookie parts, you can't buy it w/o the cake roll, and that icing, be careful w/ the damn package or you'll lose it all.  I'm POSITIVE I'm not the only Mother on the planet whose toddler turned into a crying, screaming, ball of liquid snot because I screwed up opening the package and now I/they can't draw on their Toaster Strudel.  AND there are NO extras in the package, so unless SOMEONE want's to go w/o their icing (and let's face it, NO ONE is going to do that) there's nothing you can do.  You know how it goes, you try to rip them apart and you slit the whole side seam open, there's no drawing w/ that, it's time to get the butter knife and the Kleenex.  It slips out of your hands while trying to open it and lands in the dog water...it's always something.  I don't even like the strudel part, just give me a packet of icing! Why can't they just put a few extra packages in there?   Don't they know SHIT HAPPENS!?  I though all of America knew that.

It's like they know what the best parts are, so they torture you by putting the bare minimum on it.  They are all sitting around laughing after work saying, "Dude!  We could put that shit between two pieces of cardboard and people would still buy it!"  Yea..they know they've got us by our wallets.  

So much to blog...so little time.

My oldest son is supposed to be graduating today, but the high school screwed him over so he doesn't get to walk w/ his class.  I'm not going to go into detail, because I'm so mad I could spit nails...yes he has some fault in it, but it's not completely his fault, and it's ridiculous.  So he will be getting his diploma on June 30th.

 About 3 years ago our school district decided to give trimesters a try as apposed to the age old semester system.  Over those last 3 years they've discovered that MORE students failed classes(including my son) because the classes were too short and rushed and the kids weren't getting the instruction they needed.  They then decided to switch back because it was obviously not working.  This then being the last year of the trimester system they changed the rule for graduation.  If a senior is missing 1 or more credits as of final grades they can't walk in the graduation ceremony.  So on the last year of a system they know to be inferior they make it so a BUNCH of seniors can't participate in graduation.  Great idea.

Summer is so close, thank God I'm overly irritated w/ all four of the schools I have to deal w/ on a daily basis.  What used to be a good school district has gotten too big and they are NOT coping well.  The high school has 10, 11, and 12th grade there are 1348 students in those three classes.  The current 9th grade class has 548 students.  This is NOT a big school district, and it was never meant to handle that many students.  Holt is not even a city or a village it's a corporation.  Michigan has what is called "Schools of Choice"  that means you can enroll your kids in ANY public school you want IN Michigan as long as you can get them there.  You have to apply to that school ,but there is no fee, and since they make money based on how many students they have, you're not likely to be turned away.  This is not a bad thing, that's how my children were enrolled in Holt schools, I live a 1/4 of a mile from the edge of the district, and the schools they would go to are not that great, so I thought I was doing the right thing taking them to a better district.  I guess the grass really isn't greener.   I think it's probably still better than where they would go, but the differences are evening out faster than I like.

The whole "Zero tolerance" for bullies policy is the biggest load of bullshit they've ever come up with.  They preach it , the teach it, and they don't enforce it. Three out of four of my kids have been bullied at least once each in the last year, and nothing was done to the bullying child besides a talk w/ the principle.  The principle can do absolutely NOTHING but TALK to the opposing child, wow, big deal.   They don't do detention anymore, there's no staying after school cleaning chalk board, there's not In school suspension, they do nothing.  The high school used to have Saturday school if you had more than 3 tardy's in a trimester...no more.  The 'middle' school my youngest son goes to has anti-bullying posters on every wall MADE by the students.  So when he tells me that a GIRL told him she was going to POISON HIS FOOD in his lunch bag, I was LIVID.  I called the principal who didn't even KNOW about the incident.  WHAT?!  The girl didn't even have to go to the principals office?  What. The. Hell.  Why put the posters all over the school if no one is going to do anything about it?   What a crock.

I'm strongly considering homeschooling if things don't improve.